Archive for September 22, 2009
Baby first
Think of the possibilities why your husband is so enamoured by your baby, enough for you to feel neglected. Perhaps it has always been his dream to be a father, and his intense desire to become a good one blinds him to the needs of your relationship. He may even think that you don’t need him as much as your baby does. After all, you can take care of yourself- your baby can’t.
You should also reflect the baby how the two of you were before the baby arrived. How would you describe the bond you had with your husband back then? We’re you fighting a lot? If so, maybe the baby became a welcome distraction for your husband.
You can only learn the reason behind your husband’s extreme attachment to the baby by talking to him. When you do don’t put him on the defensive by saying things like, “You are neglecting me”. Better to create a mood when you can both relax. Maybe go out on a date where you can both discuss your plans for your son. He may get excited talking about it.
Spirited child
Living with any toddler is a physical and emotional feat-but, face it, some kids are more challenging than others.
They don’t cry, they shriek. Their meltdowns take forever to end, and erupt from the most inane things- like you ran out of bananas to mix with their cereal. Oh, the horror!
They’re not just active-they’re bolts of lightning, striking fast and unexpected. Take your eyes off them for two minutes and they’ve figured out how to open the window from your 10th floor condo.
They’re super hyper kids. Child experts have another name: high needs or spirited children. They were those who have the traits of his peers multiplied by 100. He’s more active, forceful, vulnerable, discerning, and relentless. They describes as follows:
Intense
Persistent
Sensitive
Perceptive
Rigid
Energetic
Difficult adaptability
Advance limit testing skills
